I could have worked on rescheduling the cruise but chose not to because I was hurt. His choice of wanting to see a few old classmates as opposed to taking our first cruise together makes me feel insignificant and has really hurt my feelings.
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I think today has marked a point for me, I am is such a place I am not quite sure how to get free from. Once again I feel like he is very thoughtless in doing this. This just seems to be the last time. Not sure where to go from here but I really feel like running, or packing his bags.
When I told my husband this then, he disregarded my feelings and our relationship then and proceeded to adopt, so basically he chose her instead of us. I have been stuck here three years, lost three years of my life taking care of her. I watch the grandparents visit with their blood grandchildren but not this poor little one. This I am sure could be why I am in the state I am in.
No intimacy, no communication. Always a fight. He cares more about a son he has no relationship with then the two we have together. This is the worst advice I have ever seen anyone give. Are you kidding me? I would like to see you site your sources in your research. You are literally giving the man in the relationship a hall pass to behave badly.
What are your credentials? I would certainly like to see them and the sources you have used for your research. I think it is a lovely article and thank you for sharing your insight.
Being unloved would be clear through an accumulation of evidence, not a few mistakes. I think if your considerate of your spouse and consistent, not look…I washed the dishes …praise me, then it makes all the difference.
When someone is constantly inconsiderate the resentment is bound to build up, so much so that you might just want to sock them in the face. But what if he is very considerate to everyone else very much so but his wife me. Can I still assume he loves me?
Is he just lazy with me and therefore inconsiderate but still loves me? I think it is true that he can still love me and be inconsiderate at times but I also think that it is a character flaw. I think I get upset when I feel he is being inconsiderate so I think that is wrong on my part but it really hurts when he bends over backwards for others and truly then I feel unloved.
I completely understand. Mines the same, bit of a catch Bloody frustrating!! My husband has been so inconsiderate it makes my blood boil! A friend made me some chicken soup and he ate it. To me, this kind of behavior is unacceptable! It really hurts my heart. I love my husband and he actually tries a lot harder. Some of the stories here leave me feeling gobsmacked. If you want to make a difference teach your sons that this is not acceptable behaviour and let them have a share in the household chores and teach them to share and be considerate!
Secondly, make sure you get to know him really well before you let him put a ring on it or heaven forbid, have children with him. You cannot change people, but there are things you can control to break the cycle. If men think all they have to do is earn money and have stylish hair and a hot body to pull chicks, this is all you get. My husband had to change a few things but I know he is a good guy and when I let him know how his behaviour makes me feel, he takes it seriously.
But sometimes I want to strangle his mum for letting him get away with so much! Why do we tolerate behavior in our husbands that we do not tolerate in our children?
Why do we hold our children to a higher behavioral standard than our husbands? Seems unfair to the kids! David Clarke tremendously helpful. I understand how frustrating and hurtful it is when your spouse does something thoughtless, insensitive or inconsiderate. It can leave you feeling downright unloved.
Sometimes it stems from a difference in priorities. You have a pet peeve, so you see something as important and your spouse does not. Or it can be a difference in the way things are done. You think of your way as best, but so do they. I personally have found that the timing of conversation about the offense is critical.
If your spouse is tired or distracted, you will not get the proper attention from them. They may feel irritable and react badly, or that you yourself are being inconsiderate of them by trying to talk to them at a bad time, like during their favorite show.
It could even be a passive aggressive response to something you did to hurt them. The way you approach them is important also. No one wants someone yelling at them or criticizing them. The most functional relationships have a ton of compromise. Pick your battles. Is that towel left on the floor as important as say, how the finances are handled? Everyone has strengths and weaknesses in their personality. Open, honest communication about our feelings, wants and needs, as well as understanding our partners is key here.
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Your email address will not be published. I accept the Privacy Policy. This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed. Shaunti Feldhahn P. Share With Others. Click To Tweet Whenever we are hurt by our spouse, it is essential and helpful and beneficial to look for the more generous explanation, and to act as if that is the real one — because it probably is.
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MP, My heart hurts for your suffering. I was refreshed reading this! Thank you so much. Great writing as always Shaunti! Hello All I often feel like my husband is inconsiderate or just does not care. Polly, you are absolutely right. Sometimes it is easier to be single. We long to be listened to and cherished and appreciated. Now I would not put up with such inconsiderate behaviour. I am better off on my own.
Honey Bee. Women who are single are smart. Do not brand your spouse as selfish just because they like to have some me-time or go out for a party now and then. Here are a few such instances:.
Love and selfishness cannot co-exist. When you truly love a person, you cannot see them suffer because of you. And if your spouse is in the habit of ignoring your needs and expectations, then it is time to stand up and tell them what you think. Also if your spouse complains of you being selfish, it is important to see whether you have any behavior patterns. MomJunction's articles are written after analyzing the research works of expert authors and institutions.
Our references consist of resources established by authorities in their respective fields. You can learn more about the authenticity of the information we present in our editorial policy. Selfishness ; Good Therapy. The following two tabs change content below. Reviewer Author. With a passion for reading and understanding about the human mind and how it functions, Dr Sadhvi Mythili took up Psychiatry after completing her graduation in Medicine from Kakatiya Medical College, Telangana.
She pursued post graduation from the prestigious Asha Hospital. With over five years of experience in Psychiatry adult and child , Dr. Mythili is currently working with Apollo Clinic Sanjana did her graduation in Pharmacy and post graduation in management. It was during her first job, she recognized her skills in writing and began working as a freelance writer. Elise Wile has been a writer since Holding a master's degree in curriculum and Instruction, she has written training materials for three school districts.
Her expertise includes mentoring, serving at-risk students and corporate training. By: Elise Wile. Words Step 1 Address the inconsiderate behavior directly rather than indirectly. Actions Step 1 Bring your husband a cup of coffee in bed or otherwise be very considerate.
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